Can a 6 yr old have an anxiety attack?
Warning: May contain triggers. Be cautious with reading if facing depression .
Reality is setting in for my Jay. I found him sitting in the dark kitchen crying afterschool. He teared up when we were saying goodbye to a friend before the dance. He has burst into tears multiple times since we got home.
This last episode started when he was asleep. He was itching and scratching his whole body. Crying, breathing fast, heart racing. Kicking and flailing. Then he would calm down and stare ahead and zone out. Before he fell back asleep, he said we needed to stay home tomorrow because he would be to sad to do anything or go anywhere.
How can I be so angry at someone that is dead? I am swearing at my ceiling, crying while I try to calm Jayson.
While I understand his decision, his self-inflicted death is really pissing me off.
I don't know if I can do enough to help my boys. My own half-assed attempts at ending my life failed. At the time I felt that was just one more thing I fucked up in my life. Just one more thing I couldn't get right. It is so scary to think of what was going through Ken's head 15 nights ago. Scary because I have been in that hole. Scary because I saw how hard it was to dig and claw my way back to the top.
I have been at peace for the last week. As details came out the entire family realized that he had planned his death. I blamed myself for doing or saying something wrong. I blamed myself for giving up too soon - BUT there is nothing I could have done to change things. It is so hard to fully accept that, I don't want to accept it.
Sammy still want talk about anything. His behavior is getting worse. Hitting and kicking, pushing his brother. Lying about little things. Sam is having a hard time with loud noises. Both boys are even more sensitive during the day, bedtime is a long process of tears, torture and giving in to them sleeping in my bed.
The other manifestation of their feelings has been yelling out:
"You hate me! Nobody loves me! You don't love me! You don't like me! Nobody wants to play with me!"
It is so hard to hear those words. Of course, I love them. How does a mom with her own poor feelings of self-worth explain any of this to a sad 6 yr old child. It isn't fair.
I am not sure why I never completed my attempts at suicide. Maybe it was more of a cry for help than being at the last bit of hope. Does that make me stronger? Was he more courageous for choosing a method that couldn't fail?
I might never know. Right now I don't need to know. All I NEED is enough strength and wisdom and love to comfort these two little boys. We have done pretty well over the last 5+ years so I know I CAN do it! I am just a little worried about the HOW.
Has anyone dealt with any similar situations? Please post what worked or helped. Thank you.
Friday, February 5, 2016
As the boys and I deal with the loss of their father, this post seemed appropriate to re-share. I obviously have a history with depression; my #semicolonproject tattoo is proof of that struggle. I have so much I need to say but it will have to wait a few more days. For now, please look over these links from my other posts - and tell your family and friends you love them.
What Would I Do Without Them?
bpd, bipolar, anxiety, and depression, oh my
Depression - Makes You Think Monday
Storm Inside of Me
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Wednesday, February 3, 2016
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Today is my 39th Birthday. I would love to tell you all sorts of tricks on how to look younger, how to raise obedient children, how to keep your house clean in only 20 minutes a day - however, I don't know how to do any of those things!
One thing I do know about is bills and stretching a dollar. Having one income in a family is tough. There always seems to be more month than money. I am lucky that blogging has helped me bring in some extra income each month, it helps a lot. (Make sure to look for my upcoming series on building my blog.) Over the years as a single parent I have learned how to finds deals and discounts to keep expenses under control. One thing that never seems manageable is the bill for my mobile phone. We all have smartphones! We all have our favorite apps: facebook, twitter, snapchat, pinterest, instagram. We all have a need to stay connected. Pictures, videos, messages, texts, phone calls. There are a lot of plans that offer unlimited talk and text but, what if you need more? We go through so much data in my family.
These two are constantly using data to stream movies and tv or to play games on their tablets. They have even asked for a WiFi enabled car so they can stream while we drive. I may have found a solution...
Once again I found a great deal at my local Walmart store. I saw a promo display for the newest Walmart Family Mobile Plus plan. For less than fifty bucks of month I will have enough data to get work done, play games and keep up to date on all my social media. The PLUS part is a free movie every month from their VUDU service. We can watch that movie on our smart TV and make it a Family Night with some pizza and popcorn. Have you tried VUDU yet? I can't wait to get our first code.
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