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Friday, June 20, 2014
BPD, Bipolar, Anxiety and Depression - OH MY!
What? Why? What? What? Huh? Most people can not understand what I deal with on a regular basis with my multiple mental health issues. I have tried to explain but I either scare people or get angry and frustrated when they can't understand. So I went looking for some information today that might be easier to understand. Here is some Dummies Cheat Sheets for 2 of my main diagnoses.
Diagnosing borderline personality disorder (BPD) is complex, even trained mental health professionals may have difficulty with the diagnosis because the symptoms of BPD can vary dramatically between people. A range of BPD symptoms exist and are grouped into nine categories. To be diagnosed with BPD you must exhibit frequently at least five of these nine symptoms:
Intense worries about abandonment and strong efforts to avoid it
Unpredictable, rocky relationships
Uncertainty about self-identity
Reckless, risky behaviors
Highly volatile emotions
Profound feelings of hollowness or emptiness
Easily provoked rage
Short-term flights from reality
Important Information about Borderline Personality Disorder
Don’t despair if you’re diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD). Seeking help and finding the right treatment can be effective. Keep these things in mind about BPD:
Remember that BPD doesn’t define who you are. Try to view your symptoms as your BPD at work — not you.
If you have BPD, realize that you have lots of company. Many millions of people have the same problem.
Understand that treatment for BPD works, but it does take time and effort.
Don’t rely on medications alone for help with your BPD problems — they won’t suffice.
Know that other problems, such as anxiety, depression, and substance abuse, often accompany BPD. These problems may require specific treatment in addition to the treatment you receive for BPD.
Try to realize that your therapist is on your side. Your fears of abandonment may cause you to push your therapist away — try to resist.
Tips for Friends and Family of Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder
It can be difficult to deal with a friend or loved one who has borderline personality disorder (BPD). Use these tips to handle tough times and help maintain a safe environment:
Read as much as you can about BPD — knowing about the disorder helps you deal with it.
If you live with someone who has BPD, join a support group or consider therapy for yourself to help you deal with the issues you face.
Understand that BPD behaviors aren't about you. Try to depersonalize what’s happening.
Even if you understand BPD behaviors, you need to know your own limits and stick by them — don’t ever allow yourself to be abused.
Understand your loved one’s hot buttons and try not to push them — yet know that you won’t always succeed.
Realize that sometimes the only thing you can do is leave the relationship when your loved one repeatedly runs over your limits or when your loved one refuses treatment.
Useful Tips for People with Borderline Personality Disorder
People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) usually exhibit behaviors, feelings and thoughts in drastic forms. Try these things to help you manage impulsive behavior and extreme thinking when dealing with BPD:
Slowing down impulsiveness:
When a question or comment upsets you, wait at least five seconds before responding and repeat “calm down” in your mind several times first.
When you feel a strong impulse, remind yourself that taking action at those times usually results in bad outcomes.
Discuss with your therapist any new, big plans you might have for your life before taking action.
Practice breathing exercises often.
Cooling down extreme thoughts:
When you have a hot thought, ask yourself how a friend may look at the same issue differently.
When your thoughts are strong and extreme, ask yourself how you may view the triggering event six months down the road and notice the difference.
Remember that extreme words and phrases such as always, never, can’t stand it, awful, and horrible are almost always inaccurate. Try to find the shades of gray.
Bipolar disorder is a physical illness that affects the brain. A bipolar diagnosis requires at least one episode of mania (wired thinking and behaviors that negatively affect one’s ability to function) orhypomania (a less severe form of mania), and the disorder typically includes episodes of depression that alternate with the mania or hypomania. Your specific diagnosis depends on your symptoms.
In the U.S., doctors refer to the Diagnostic andStatistical Manual of Mental Disorders(DSM), which provides several different categories for bipolar disorder:
Bipolar I: The classic form of bipolar disorder involves clear-cut manic episodes, usually alternating with periods of major depression and euthymic (even-mood) periods. A single manic episode, even without depression, is sufficient for a bipolar I diagnosis.
Bipolar II: People with bipolar II experience depressive episodes that alternate with hypomanic episodes. If mania enters the picture, the diagnosis changes to bipolar I.
Cyclothymic disorder: Multiple depressive and hypomanic episodes over the course of at least two years that are severe enough to disrupt life but not extreme enough, in intensity or duration, to warrant a diagnosis of bipolar I or II characterize this form of bipolar.
Substance-induced bipolar disorder or bipolar disorder due to a general medical condition:Bipolar symptoms related to intoxication or withdrawal from drugs or alcohol or due to physical illness (such as thyroid disorder, dementia, or brain injury) fall into this category.
Bipolar not elsewhere classified (NEC) or not otherwise specified (NOS): This form of bipolar involves variations of cycling moods that resemble manic or depressive episodes and interfere with daily routines but don’t fulfill the complete diagnostic requirements for the other classifications of bipolar disorder in this list.
Physicians outside the U.S. refer to the World Health Organization’s (WHO’s) International Statistical Classification of Diseases and Related Health Problems (ICD), which describes bipolar as “bipolar affective disorder” and classifies it by the current episode’s symptoms:
Treating Bipolar Disorder: Medications
The primary treatment for bipolar disorder is medication with the goal of restoring normal brain function. The following classes of medications are often used in treating bipolar disorder and related conditions:
Antimanics: Medications that target mania include lithium; certain anticonvulsants, such as valproate (Depakote); and certain newer or atypical antipsychotics, such as olanzapine (Zyprexa). Antimanics are often referred to as mood stabilizers, even though very few of them — namely, lithium and some of the atypical antipsychotics — reduce symptoms of both mania and depression.
Antidepressants: Medications that target depression include Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs), such as paroxetine (Paxil) and fluoxetine (Prozac), and bupropion (Wellbutrin). Antidepressants must be used carefully in bipolar depression because they can be less effective or even trigger manic symptoms in some people. Lithium, the anticonvulsant lamotrigine (Lamictal), and certain atypical antipsychotics, such as aripiprazole (Abilify), also have antidepressant effects, typically without the risks of triggering mania.
Antipsychotics: Antipsychotics were originally developed to help treat schizophrenia, but they’re often useful in treating psychosis that sometimes accompanies acute mania or depression. Many of the newer antipsychotics are also used to treat acute mania, and some are used for treatment-resistant depression, but they’re still referred to as antipsychotics.
Maintenance/prevention medications: People with bipolar disorder continue to take these medications after an acute mood episode to reduce the likelihood that another mood cycle will occur. Lithium is the most common medicine in this category, but certain anticonvulsants such as lamotrigine (Lamictal) and some atypical antipsychotics such as olanzapine (Zyprexa) can be used this way as well.
Antianxiety medications: Antianxiety medications (sometimes called anxiolytics) include alprazolam (Xanax) and clonazepam (Klonopin). Some medications in this category may also be used as sedatives. Antianxiety medications aren’t used to treat the bipolar disorder itself but to help with the commonly co-occurring symptoms of anxiety or agitation.
Sedatives: Because sleeplessness often accompanies mania or depression and may exacerbate it, doctors often prescribe sedatives (sleep aids), such as zolpidem (Ambien), eszopiclone (Lunesta), and zaleplon (Sonata). These aren’t used to treat bipolar symptoms but rather to help manage sleep issues that often affect people with bipolar and that can complicate the illness.
Note: Other treatments target the biology of the brain, including light therapy, electroconvulsive therapy (ECT), repetitive transcranial magnetic stimulation (rTMS), and deep brain stimulation (DBS). These therapies and medications are designed to treat bipolar from the inside out via the brain. Other therapies and self-help strategies, including interpersonal and social rhythm therapy (IPSRT), mindfulness training, and dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT), help manage bipolar from the outside in.
Maintaining Mood Stability with Bipolar Disorder
The overall treatment plan for helping a person with bipolar disorder is fairly straightforward. The goal is to help the person with bipolar disorder achieve and maintain mood stability.
Take your medications as prescribed, even when you’re feeling good, and consult your doctor before making any medication changes.
Establish routines that ensure a regular sleep-wake schedule. Lack of quality sleep is related to mood instability and is often a warning sign of an impending mood episode.
Ingest healthy stuff and avoid the bad stuff, including alcohol and marijuana, which may interfere with medications.
Exercise. Even a relaxing 30-minute walk every other day can help.
Monitor your moods and seek help sooner rather than later. Early intervention can prevent major mood meltdowns.
Ten Things You Can Do to Help a Loved One with Bipolar Disorder
If a family member or close friend has bipolar disorder, you’re probably wondering what you can do to help. Although your loved one ultimately decides what your level of involvement will be, the two of you may want to consider the following ways you can help:
Get educated. Knowing what your loved one is dealing with leads to understanding and empathy, which are essential to becoming an effective support person.
Establish a structured schedule. Daily routines, especially consistent sleep-wake cycles, are important for mood stability and are much easier for your loved one to maintain in a supportive, structured household.
Tone down the volume and emotions. Intense emotional reactions, particularly criticism and hostility, may contribute to mood instability, so try to maintain a relatively calm atmosphere.
Avoid the four big communication no-nos. Criticism, blame, judgment, and demand are likely to drive a wedge between you and your loved one. Keep them out of your interactions.
Hone your communication skills. How you say something is often as important as what you say when talking with others. Establish a receptive forum by using effective communication techniques.
Set a few house rules. Target a couple of the most troublesome behaviors, assign consequences, and enforce the rules consistently without criticism, blame, judgment, or demand.
Become a problem solver. When conflict arises, approach the issue as a mutual problem to be solved together instead of as a disagreement in which one person is right and the other is wrong. Work together to find ways to meet everyone’s needs.
Disengage from unproductive conflicts. Take a timeout when discussion begins to heat up and then return to the negotiating table when emotions have cooled.
Take care of yourself. One of the burdens that your loved one with bipolar carries is seeing how miserable it makes you. Feeling sorry for yourself is natural and understandable, but try as much as possible to focus on more pleasant aspects of your life, such as friends, hobbies, and managing your own well-being.
Have fun together. At times, bipolar disorder may be your life, but it doesn't always have to be. When symptoms subside, make it a point to have some enjoyable times together.
Ask your loved one for specific ways you can help, such as sitting in on doctor visits, assuming management of the family finances, or even cooking or doing the laundry. You don’t want to do everything for your loved one; daily chores provide routine and a sense of accomplishment. But try to ease the burden, especially during times of mood instability.