Tuesday, August 7, 2018

Child with Anxiety Going Back to School

How to Help a Child with Anxiety Navigate the School Year

When a child feels overly anxious, it can interfere with his or her mood, concentration, and decision-making abilities. Often times, children with anxiety become unengaged in the classroom, which leads to poor achievement relative to their potential.

“The negative self-image that ensues contributes to poor motivation to study and participate in class and causes more social and academic difficulties, continuing as a negative perpetual cycle,” says Sutter Medical Center. To help stop the cycle, parents can create strategies to help their children as they adjust to being back at school.
Starting the Day on a Positive Note
Starting a day on a positive note sets the tone for the rest of the day, and the effort actually begins the night before. Ensure your child is getting enough sleep, which reduces irritability and increases his or her ability to handle stress. An alarm clock often uses a harsh sound, so consider allowing your child to use music, such as a favorite song, to wake up to.
Instead of rushing out to the door in a chaotic manner, get up with enough time so that everyone is calmly and smoothly heading from the house to the car or bus stop. Eating breakfast together is also a good idea. You and your child can talk about what the day will entail and what he or she is looking forward to most. Ensure the meal is nutritious. A poor breakfast can exacerbate anxiety symptoms.
Don’t Let Fall Become too Harried
During the summer, families stay busy with camps and vacations, and some kids lose touch. After the school year begins, arrange a few play dates between your child and his or her friends. “Feeling connected to their school friends can help alleviate some social concerns that your children might have about the new year,” says Oprah.com.
To help your child feel continue to feel excited about school, start a new tradition. You can throw a party, have a weekly game night, or enjoy an educational weekend trip. Whatever you choose, your child will look forward to it every year one school has started.
While society seems to believe that being busy equals being happy, staying constantly busy is an unhealthy way to cope with life’s challenges. People need time to relax and unwind. Also, too many after-school activities can equate to less time for homework and family time, so carefully choose extracurricular programs.

Using Tools to Excite Instead of Overwhelm
Create an achievement tree for your child. On a poster board, draw a tree with many branches and create leaves on strips of green paper. When your child accomplishes something he or she is proud of, have your child write it on a leaf and tape it to the tree. The accomplishment can be having a good soccer practice, solving a math equation, or making a new friend. By the end of the school year, the tree will be lush and full of accomplishments.
If you haven’t already, remove clutter from your kid’s desk at home. Create a simple filing system, utilize drawer organizers, and use color-coding for different subjects. Design a creative monthly calendar where your child can easily see upcoming assignments, group projects, and extracurricular activities. Also, decorate the area to be fun and enticing. “With a clean slate and an inviting desk area, homework will seem like less of a chore,” says The Rolla Daily News.
More Tips
Always keep a supportive, nonjudgmental open line of communication between you and your child. When your child is feeling stressed, down, or angry, he or she will need someone to talk to. Also, ensure your child is aware of healthy coping mechanisms. Tell your child that using substances is never the right answer to cope with anxiety, and discuss the dangers of addiction.
While all children feel some level of anxiety after school has started, children or teenagers with anxiety disorder experience the extreme ends of these feelings. The pressure of school and social challenges can seem overwhelming. To help ease these feelings, parents can come up with tactics to help their child every step of the way. By doing so, you ensure your child has a comfortable and memorable school year.

This was a gust post written by: Joyce Wilson
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Wednesday, June 6, 2018

My Choice

When I die...

I don't think anyone will care what I am wearing. They won't mind the messy hair or the dirty house. No one will think of me as a failure for not finishing the laundry. No one will see the kitchen filled with food, or the full tank of gas in the car, they won't pay attention to the bills that were paid. Or will they? Isn't that worry also part of the problem?

What will they say about me when they find me next to a pile of dirty laundry and a sink full of dirty dishes? What will they think when they see so many screens in my house; tablets, phones, handheld games, video game systems, and TVs? Will they care? Should I care?

We talk about other's final moments as if we should be allowed in to view that which is  personal and intimate. That is wrong. It is shameful.

People make choices every day. We don't have to agree with them but we do need to accept them. What you would do in a situation is not what I would do. Until you have been in that exact spot, you can't judge the decision.

Suicide is a choice. I don't consider it to be selfish. I came to this conclusion after my struggles with depression. There were many times that I felt the world would be a better place without me. I thought my family and friends would be happy that they no longer had to deal with my problems.

After my boys' dad took his own life, I decided that suicide would never again be an option. However, I'm not mad at him for his choice.

Think before you speak! Stop judging other's choices based on your life's experiences.

Monday, May 21, 2018

Today - BE Awesome, BE Positive, BE Gorgeous

New message for me!
I am getting out of --  this funk, this blah, this mood, & the last couple weeks of being down.

Today (and the rest of May)
BE awesome BE positive BE gorgeous

I can do this! I am deserving! I'm better than their opinion of me! I am strong! I am still moving forward, the last couple weeks were just slow progress.

It is been 4 months of positive changes in my life. Healthier diet, no soda pop, rarely any fast food, supplements, tracking my food, workouts at home and at the gym, being a soccer coach, taking the dog for a walk, dealing with a torn meniscus. (Plus not feeling guilty when I make a mistake and really slip.)

AND the best part is 20 lbs have been dropped as well as 3 pants sizes. I bought size 24 jeans just before Xmas. In February I found a pair of size 22 capri jeans that fit. In March, I bought shorts in 4 different colors in a size 20. In May at a fashion show, I wore size 18 skinny jeans.

If I can see these changes in just 4 months with slip ups and mistakes (Oreo Double Stuf cookies for dinner) and still keep moving towards my goal - just think how far I could go if I stayed focused.

I am starting a challenge group for those of us that need accountability partners. Are you trying to lose weight, change your diet, workout regularly, add muscle, cut a food from your diet?  Let me help. I would never had said I could help in the past, but I am made a lot of changes over the years to get to this version of myself. Now I am focusing on my body and I am proud of myself.

Do you want to feel proud of yourself and your body? Do you have changes to make? Let's chat.


Sunday, January 14, 2018

Big News from CoCo

I have been drinking water!  Only one soda pop yesterday and on Friday. Two each on Wednesday and Thursday. None so far today. These healthier habits are quickly taking hold. I didn't want to jinx it and say anything but I am really proud of myself. 

My snacks have been cucumbers and clementines (and some ice cream.) I even passed up the Double Stuf Oreo cookies. It is so odd but I don't even want them. I did buy some Halo Top ice cream after so many friends raved about it as a treat. 

I am using a couple different programs to help kick start these new habits. The Plexus Pink drink has helped my energy levels and curb cravings. I start and end my day with water. Weight Watchers Freestyle tracks what I eat. I actually type the foods into the app before I eat them to check the number of points. I can still splurge but it reminds me to not indulge too much. Tomorrow I start doing healthy smoothies. I ordered some Vegan Tropical Strawberry Shakeology to give me extra nutrients every day. Their portion control containers give me a visual of normal food servings. 

It has taken a long time but I am seriously ready to put my self first. I got a new bike for Christmas, and bought myself good athletic shoes for workouts and exercises. I even went to the gym. I want to play with the boys, ride our bikes, and go for a hike.  I hope I can continue these healthy habits. However, these are not resolutions. These are conscious decisions to take care of my health and well being. 

My 41st birthday is coming up and I am determined to make this a great year. I am claiming my word of the year as #CONFIDENCE again. 

What are you doing to take care of yourself?